Making Good Trouble
“Speak up, speak out, get in the way. Get in good trouble, necessary trouble, and help redeem the soul of America.” –John Lewis, Civil rights activist and US Representative But…
My True Heart
In my Valentine’s offering earlier this month, I encouraged you to embrace constructive conflict as a path to a healthier romantic relationship. But of course, all relationships—with ourselves, our families, our friends, co-workers and…
Embrace Conflict for Valentine’s Day
With Valentine’s Day approaching, let’s focus on the most important ingredient of a healthy relationship: constructive conflict. The term conflict usually brings to mind destructive conflict, such as yelling, bullying…
Anger on the Pathway to Peace
This holiday season, more than ever before in my lifetime, I long for Peace on Earth—but it feels like an unattainable platitude. News from both afar and nearby is filled…
Healing Trauma: The Secret is in the Body
Traumatic experiences turn our lives upside down—shaking us to the core, leaving us deeply distressed and disrupted. Trauma can be caused by a car crash, a natural disaster, witnessing violence…
The Habit Pathway
To break an existing habit or create a new one, learn to crack the code of the Habit Pathway. Rather than just focusing on the action you want to stop…
Give the Gift of Gratitude
Most winter holidays focus on the theme of Light in the Darkness. Light inspires hope whether you are celebrating the birth of Christ, the sustaining oil of Hanukkah, or light…
Defusing Defensiveness
Defensiveness is a common form of emotional self-protection. When we feel corrected or criticized, we deflect or shut down the conversation to avoid feeling hurt, sad or ashamed. An emotional…
Escaping Perfectionism’s Trap
Are you haunted by a perfectionistic inner voice? Do you tend to set unrealistic goals or find yourself frozen—procrastinating on tasks for fear of not getting them just right? Are…
Explore Your Creativity
My mantra is Make a joyful mess. I play with mixing colors and creating goopy textures out of paint. If I like what I’ve created, I hang it up for…